"1" Is The Loneliest Number

There's a saying that goes "There's someone for everyone." I believe that's true; however, we all have (or still are) experienced being alone. Being single is a blessing and a curse. One day, you feel free and full of joy, and then there are times when you log onto Facebook and Instagram and notice the love quotes, wedding photo's, pictures of childhood friends posting pictures of their newborn babies or the first house that the couple has purchased together. Seeing those things can sometimes make you feel as if you'll be alone forever or a little bitter but we singles must understand that our time is coming. It may not be right now, next week or even next month....but in the meantime, we should take this time to focus on ourselves. Figure out what makes you happy and what you will not put up with in your next relationship. 

Is there something you've been wanting to do but haven't taken the time to actually do it? I would suggest that you take this time to write a list of things that you've been wanting to do then go out and accomplish them. Doing so will keep you busy and not really thinking about you being temporarily alone. Go down the list one by one. Go on a trip, join a club, start a book, join that gym, anything that your heart desires. You only have one life to live...might as well enjoy it. 

Another thing that fills that void of being single is giving back. I have personally volunteered at a few shelters preparing food for the homeless and even going through my closets giving away clothes I don't wear or can't fit. It makes you feel so good knowing that you have made someone else's day. Being able to bless others gives you this feeling that is hard to explain. You are filled with joy and positivity. 

While you are alone, take that time to think about your past relationships and see if you notice a pattern. What kind of men or women do you attract? What could you do to avoid getting the same type of person over and over again? Have you set boundaries for yourself? These are things that you should consider. 

One last thing that I would advise all my fellow singles to do is improve yourself! Learn to love yourself and your imperfections. Take this time to get fit, get a new hairstyle, whatever it is that will make you feel good....and most importantly, STOP TRYING TO HARD TO FIND SOMEBODY! Once you stop forcing it, love finds you. It's okay to join a singles event or club but don't over do it. Just enjoy yourself. 

Once Mr. or Ms. Right comes along, you'll be content knowing that you have spent your single time being happy and learning more about yourself. Love always starts with SELF love! I hope this blog has blessed you. Feel free to share this with anyone you feel needs to read this. Peace and blessings xoxo! 

-Markesha Nicole